3333.3 Miles (part 2)

I emailed Josh and asked him if there was anything he wanted me to do or any place he wanted me to go while I was there. The one thing he requested I do was to go to open mike on Monday night. I wanted to see him sing in public, so I was so thankful that I was invited to go. Open mike was held at
The Buttonwood Tree in Middletown.

It is definitely an artsy type place with people that stretch me way beyond my comfort zone.  I am glad I went. I think every town should have a place similar to this.

I impatiently awaited Josh's turn to perform. I watched the others that were there, trying to saturate myself into Josh's life. His mom was sitting next to me. She has been his number on cheerleader all of his life and his best friend. I sat pondering my life decision to give him up for adoption and wondered how different his life would have been if I hadn't. I wondered if I would have had what he needed in his life, sadly I realized that would not have, that is why I gave him up. Floods of emotions hit me sitting in that little room with the eclecticnesss of the life and people that were in it.

Isaiah had requested Josh to wear his spy glasses while he performed on the stage that night. Uncle Josh gladly did so just for the joy of his nephew. Thanks Josh!

I watched Josh wear these goggles and realized that this is one way that we are different.  I don't think I would have ever had the courage to do that. To make myself looks so independent of anyone else. I think that I prefer to be in the crowd without any one's eyes on me at all.

I am reminded of a picture Joann sent me of Josh when he was maybe four years old. He has a toy guitar in his hands and he is standing in front of a toy mic singing. It must be his comfort zone.

 Kara spent the most time with Josh, when he was available. 

I had to catch myself from feeling sorry for myself. I am an adult woman. I was the one that chose to give Josh up, I should not be hurt because I can't spend the time with him I want to. It was after all... the result of my own decision. I will have to live with it.  I was able to get a balance somewhere in my thoughts and hopefully I did not cause any issue in the house for anyone. I found the easiest way to deal with it was to go take a shower and cry while I was in the shower and then go to bed.

I thought all the way home about what I was feeling, all 3,333.3 miles. I don't normally put much weight on my feelings as they do seem to change quite often. I did however know that I needed to ponder my thoughts and and figure out where I think I  stand in this equation of Josh's  and my relationship.

From what I observed, I believe his relationship with his siblings is his priority. This is to be expected, as he has a mom and dad. I don't think he really needs me in his life. I will make it a point to stay in the back ground. I am doing what I can to not post on his f.b. but just on occasion. I will not initiate a chat with him when I see him online.  I am hoping that giving him this space, he will not feel crowded by me.

A few weeks before we went to CT, I was so excited to get to hear him sing on the radio. He had posted the station and time of his performance on his f.b. I found it online and bookmarked it. I could hardly wait to hear him! He played and sung live for one hour on the radio. My heart was beaming with so much pride. It was wonderful hearing him. It wasn't until after we got to CT, that I realized that maybe I had crossed a line of privacy there. It was not my place to be beaming with pride. It was his parents, and they indeed were. I don't think they know, that I had heard him that night.

He is coming to Texas in October. I am very happy that he is coming. I am preparing my heart to not be disappointed when his time is divided among my five children. As an adult I see that this is the most important thing to him.I am so thankful that my children are being healed from this life long hurt that has been in their hearts.I pray that Josh is too.


As a birth mother, I want to have him all to myself. Before this trip, I had planned on a trip back up there later in the fall. That would have allowed  just the two of us could have some alone time. Hindsight says not to do this, I don't think that will happen for quite a while...or if ever.  I will have to find my peace in my belief that the Lord put him on this earth for Rick and Joann. 

I am not entitled to anything more than what he is willing to give me.
That in essence, what he got from me.

3333.3 Miles!

We had driven to Poughkeepsie to pick up my grandson, arrived there at 2:30 in the morning. I tried sleeping once we got there, I don't really recall sleeping. I remember waking up several times during the 4 hours I laid on the couch. Then we were up and at em headed to CT by 8 in the morning. Monday morning rush hour between NY and CT is not fun! We managed to get lost in downtown Hartford and finding ourselves in the wrong part of town. It wasn't too scary, but I was very happy to get back to the right part of town. We met a fellow Etsian in the Hartford area, went shopping for a little while and then went to lunch. The food was very good, I believe the restaurant was called Friendlys. The butterflies in my stomach did not allow me to eat very much. After saying goodbye to Janette and her sweet granddaughter,....and well almost hitting her car backing out.... we headed to our next location! Josh's house!

When we first arrived, Rick, Josh's dad was the only one home. It was great just to see him and get to visit with him face to face after 21 years. This is the man I put my trust into to raise the child I had birthed but could not raise. I still feel like I made the right decision. He has been a father, and a rock to Josh, a very steady anchor. That is what I was wanting for that precious child, but not ever having experienced that in a man before, I did not know how to put that into words while I was searching for adoptive parents. I don't think I could have found anyone that fit that bill better than Rick.

Joann and Josh came in about 30 minutes later. I was the lst one up to get a hug and kiss! I had forgotten how tall Josh was... or maybe I just don't realize how short I am. He, Micah and Jordan are now right at the same height. Wow...

Joann, has such a generous spirit. I spent more alone time with her than I did anyone else. The time was so precious to me. I wish I had known her better, but for her to be Josh's mom, I certainly didn't need to. I do hope our friendship grows not at Josh's mom and birth mom, but as woman to woman. My mind still is boggled at times about how faithful God was to have put Josh in Rick and Joann's life. They have been what God intended them to be, Josh's parents, his family.

Kara had bought Isaiah some Spy Glasses when we were shopping earlier in the day. Isaiah was smitten with them. We almost could not keep them off of him with the exception of the time he lent them to his "Uncle Josh". As you see in the picture, Josh dutifully wore them like all good uncles would even in public! Josh took time to give Isaiah his first guitar lessons. I have this on video, but could not get it to upload, so here is a picture.

I need to find some lost pictures, so I will diligently search for them and follow up with a closing post on the trip asap!
 

Home! Sweet Home!!

We drove/rode 3333 miles in 5 days. Whew! I am glad that is behind us. I have spent the last 3 days resting.

We (Kara and I) made it to Poughkeepsie early Monday morning after a traffic jam due to 300 linear feet of road construction in PA. Wow!! and 11 p.m. traffic jam! I think I will stick with those we find here in Texas.

We finally made it our first destination Monday morning about 2:30! I thought that as tired as I was, I would be able to crash and sleep. Wrong!! There was no A.C.! Just fans to stir the air. It of course wasn't extremely hot at night. I guess the sheer excitement of getting to see my grandson after two years and has become a little scholar! He just finished lst grade, and is reading 4 syllable words. Wow! He also is telling time accurately!! Wooo hooo!! Did I mention how brilliant he is??

We got back on the road , headed to Connecticut at 8 a.m.  Kara has sworn off ever driving there again.
It was abit scary at times, but I truly think that it had to do with our exhaustion more than anything else.

I don't think she had slept but maybe 4 hours since we left Texas on Saturday afternoon.

 We were able to meet with a dear sister in the Lord and her precious granddaughter for lunch. That was an extra special treat to me. My heart is entwined with hers.

We got back on the road after lunch and made it to Josh's home about an hour later. It was wonderful seeing him in his home setting with his parents. We stayed there Monday night and Tuesday night. Then as promised by Kara... we were back on the road by Wednesday morning @6.

The roads seemed longer coming home. I did finally get to drive for a while... all the way across Arkansas.

Then Kara took the reigns again and drove 90 miles in one hour to get us home. All I knew to do was pray we would get home safely... and thankfully we did!

What is coming to Hampton House(very) Soon!!

Check out this link to see some of the items that I will have in the shoppe soon!
http://www.virtualjewelrycatalog.com/

You will need to choose the catalogue, click and then turn the pages.
They will not be available until the end middle to the end of July.
I am so excited!

How sweet it is!!

Caleb Michel Hood aka BabyHood.

Shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

...baby is sleeping. He got his first bath today. :o)

Caleb's First Night Home / May 31, 2010

It is good to have them home....

Caleb Michel

aka BabyHood!

I can hardly wait to hold him for the first time!

Finally!

Chelsea graduated yesterday. I had promised to take her to "our special place" for an early lunch so I could get back to the shoppe and get it opened for the day. It is about a 30 minute drive from our little town. We headed out about 11:15 with Haleigh , my second daughter in coming with us. Haleigh had never been invited on one of our (Chelsea & my) mamma/daughter outings. We have been going there since Chelsea was in Kindergarten. Here is a link to their site http://www.puddinhill.com/ . Once we had eaten our Chicken Salad sandwiches we divided a Chocolate Eruption Cake between the three of us. It was absolutely divine! I was so glad to get to share the calories instead of hoarding them all. :o)

They have the most wonderful fruitcake in the world. Now, I say that with great prejudice, as I HATE fruitcake...that is all but Mary of Puddin Hill's.

There is always free help yourself samples of the flavors. That is a must thing to do when you first walk in, even before you order your meal. They also have samples of their chocolates, dips and salsas but nothing beats the fruit cake.

As we were getting ready to leave Chelsea requested we go on into the town to hunt for her a pair of shoes for graduation. I did not realize having a new pair of shoes was so VERY important for graduation. As I listened to her talk, my heart decided that I did not need to get back to our little town to open shoppe. It decided I needed to take this time with Chelsea and Haleigh and treasure it whole heartily. So we went to the mall and I think we  hit every retail store there was that had shoes. We were not able to find some she like that would fit her feet comfortably, as they are swollen underneath her 9 months pregnant body. As we searched the last store for shoes a decision was made to not buy shoes but to buy another new dress to go with a pair of flats that Haleigh had just bought this week...sooooo back to the lst store we went to at the other end of the mall. I have always heard walking was good for encouraging labor to set in... this did come to mind as we headed back to the other end of the mall.

This is one of the dresses we came home with. She said she felt like a butterfly in it. That made my heart smile, she indeed looked, airy, fun, and delightful in it!

Congratulations my darling! You made it all the way through! I am so proud of you!!

You are going to be a wonderful mommy!

Encouragement

God won't take a bad habit or an inappropriate lifestyle from you because He didn't give it to you. He will affirm your decision and strengthen your efforts when you start taking positive steps to rid yourself of the negative influences, the wrong attitudes, or the poor choices that are threatening your potential.